I was honored to be invited to speak before URMC Palliative Care staff for their retreat days. Speaking before medical professionals about my doula work (and what brought me into this workspace) was a wonderful experience, and it showed how everyone can benefit from open discussions on death, dying and living a fulfilling life in the here and now.
Regardless of age, or health status, ALL adults can benefit from an open discussion about their mortality. You need not be in palliative/hospice care, or be a caregiver to have these important discussions NOW. You might even be surprised how inspired you are to live a better life going forward! (It's not as scary or intimidating as you might think.)
( a note to those affected by cancer)
I was grateful to have been asked to speak before the members at Cancer Support Community at Gilda's Club, Rochester, NY on August 25th. This is an amazing non-profit organization that delivers high quality programs and support to those affected by cancer. They support the social and emotional needs of anyone - men, women, children and teens - living with or touched by any type of cancer, including family and caregivers. I wholeheartedly recommend them. If you aren't familiar with their work, reach out to them!
The final moments of life are often described by those present as awe-inspiring, still and profound - a sacred tradition. My talks delve into the raw beautiful reality of the dying process from a hospice death doula's unique perspective, challenging the notion that it must be a sterile or fearful event. Explore how a "good death" is achievable and how intimate experiences with mortality are potent reminders to embrace our lives with a renewed sense of urgency, love and gratitude.
Workshops and talks are available (a sampling seen below) - Please get in touch to book an event for your organization, work place or group of family/friends.
CONVERSATIONS WITH A DEATH DOULA - LIVING LIFE THROUGH DEATH
- Far from morbid, this workshop aims to remove fear and inspire you to live your best life now. We engage in powerful, thought-provoking discussions on what end-of-life plans might look like if you had a short time to live. By reflecting on needs, wants, relationships, your hopes/dreams, we evaluate what takes priority and what can fall by the wayside. By embracing life and death, you may find yourself making changes to live a life full of purpose and meaning now - no matter what your age.
DEATH AND DESSERT WITH A HOSPICE DOULA
As Helen Keller said, "Life is short and unpredictable. Eat the dessert first."
In a relaxed setting with dessert provided, we open up and talk about a difficult subject - death and dying. Using a hospice conversational tool that breaks down fear with humor and grace, thought-provoking conversations can occur. Discussing end-of-life plans and wishes is a gift to everyone. Join me in starting the conversation. An entertaining evening is guaranteed.
SWEDISH DEATH CLEANING
Organizing a lifetime of clutter now can save your loved ones from a daunting job later on. The primary goal is to not leave a massive clean up for others to sort through when you die. Suitable for any age, this class will inspire you to "let go" by discussing why we hold on to items and will provide tips to scale back and not attach happiness to "stuff" so you can focus on the more meaningful aspects of life.
" To imagine that at the time of our dying we will have the
physical strength, emotional stability, and mental clarity to do the
work of a lifetime is a ridiculous gamble."
- Frank Ostaseki
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